Oh! Daylight saving time. I look forward to the day when we stop doing that altogether.
It makes me wonder why change can be so hard, even when the evidence feels obvious. I haven’t talked to a single person who thinks changing the clocks makes sense, and yet every year we keep doing it. The conversation about ending it comes up again and again, but somehow we stay stuck in the past.
Sometimes it feels like that’s true for many things in our culture. Narratives can stick around long after we’ve stopped asking whether they actually make sense.
One place this shows up clearly is in how we talk about sex.
When it comes to having thoughtful conversations about sex and intimacy, especially in the context of adoption, things can become uncomfortable very quickly.
As an adoptee, I grew up never being given the opportunity to imagine that I was conceived out of love. That two people caring about each other could be how I came into this world. Instead, the narratives surrounding adoption often suggest something very different. Maybe my birth mother was promiscuous, too young, not married, or maybe I was conceived in violence. None of those narratives were ones I could connect with the word “love.”
And yet, the story I was told by my adoptive parents was that they had so much love and that I was deeply wanted by them. These two contradictions shaped how I understood myself, my body, my relationships, and my sense of intimacy.
I am excited for our upcoming We the Experts: Adoptee Speaker Series, which will explore Sex, Intimacy, and Adoption, where adoptee panelists will share how adoption-related experiences and social narratives can influence trust, vulnerability, and connection.
As we say goodbye to winter, I want to thank everyone who helped make Relinquishment, Reunion, and Family Truths: A Conversation Inspired by Vivien’s Wild Ride one of our most attended events, with over 300 registrations. I am also grateful to the panelists from Black Adoptees and the Complexities of Same Race Adoption, everyone who joined our first 2026 Adoptee Social, and for the nomination at the 8th International Phenomenal Women’s Day Celebration.
As always, don’t forget to check out the amazing adoptee organizers offering meaningful programs and resources in our March Adoptee Community Page.
And as spring begins to show itself again, I hope this season brings moments of connection, reflection, and a little bit of new growth for all of us.
